Deborah Tannen. You're Wearing That?. New York, Random House, 2006.

They are the best of conversations; they are the worst of conversations. Talk between mothers and grown daughters can be both: a remark coming from your daughter or your mother is more healing or more hurtful than the same remark coming from someone else. The relationship between mothers and daughters is the literal "mother of all relationships." It is among the most passionate of women's lives, the source of the deepest love and also the deepest anger-even hate-that most women experience. It brings us face-to-face with reflections of ourselves and forces us to confront fundamental questions about who we are, who we want to be, and how we relate to others both within and outside our families.